Simple Ways to Shut Down Biphobia

[Emily Clarke]

Bisexuality is an often misunderstood, and less frequently talked about, sexuality. In this blog we’ll cover some ignorant things about bisexuals and bisexuality along with excellent comebacks for biphobic comments like those.

Statement: You're just not willing to admit you're gay.

Some people believe bisexuality is just a gateway to homosexuality, or a safer, more socially-acceptable alternative that shelters them from anti-gay harassment and discrimination. The only problem is, they get biphobic harassment and discrimination instead. If you need comebacks for biphobic comments, visit this website.

Comeback: You're just not willing to admit you're a homophobe.

If you're only bisexual because you're on your way to being a homosexual, than you could say your accuser is being biphobic on the way to being homophobic.

Statement: Does that mean you're attracted to everyone?

Some people think just because you're attracted to men and women, it means you're attracted to everyone. But that would be like saying that, just because someone is a straight male, they're attracted to all women.

Comeback: Well, I'm not attracted to you.

Often, what people are really asking with this question is whether you're attracted to them. Assure them you can set their mind at ease.

Another variation of this is the statement "Does this mean you want a threesome?" to which you could say, "Not if you're one of the other two." Just because you're into both men and women, it doesn't mean you want to be with both at the same time. That's not bisexuality, that's polyamory.

Statement: It's just a phase.

Gay people get the same blowback. Maybe it's because many people question their sexuality at some point in life, some in puberty, others after experimenting with LGBTQIA sex or romance in young adulthood, and come to a different conclusion. If it was a phase for them, it must be a phase for you, right?

Comeback: Hopefully your ignorance (or bigotry or biphobia) is just a phase.

Some things are phases, some things aren't. Hopefully a comment like this will help make that evident.

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