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Dating Tips for Aspergers Women
It is work and requires effort and energy. You may get an answer, or you may not. Thousands of females with Aspergers remain undiagnosed. Jesse Saperstein knows that all too well.
It was easier for people my age, particularly men, to see my weirdness as a trope, as opposed to a complex neurological condition. Birds of a feather, proven for relationship success. Now I tell you, 'I have Asperger's and this is how I communicate. Discuss stuff you have in common, and then try to learn general things about your date, such things as where they are from, what they like about the place they are currently living, intriguing hobbies and interests.
What is the best dating site for people with Asperger syndrome? - He will NEVER ask you how your are or even care?
I pose this question not as an attack or criticism. Although neurotypicals claim to value honesty, when I actually am, they tend to be put off by my excessive candor. The instinct of someone with autism is to bluntly state his or her full thoughts and opinions. For this piece, I interviewed several women I had dated with varying degrees of seriousness about the ways I have offended them. At least, the ones who answered my emails. It's a silly pride thing, I guess. Direct, to the point that you can come across as rude and inconsiderate. For example, in one of my first relationships, my then-girlfriend and I were ridiculed by a Facebook group for our frequent PDA. She was mortified, while I was simply surprised that other people in our small liberal arts college even cared. Similarly, a woman I dated back in 2014 once had to pull me aside to explain why others were annoyed by my habit of talking at length about the history of health care reform in America. For neurotypicals, though, it can become a nuisance, particularly when the topics can easily offend others…like politics, Obama, or health care in America. You may have noticed there is a common theme tying all these examples together. And if each party was as honest and open as possible with their opinions, feelings, and intentions. Imagine a world where if something was said, it was meant literally and without subtext. Instead, most people live by complex set of guidelines that determine everything from how to communicate what one wants out of a relationship to when he or she feels offended. Because these rules have never been formally adopted, however, each individual winds up settling on the ones that make the most sense based on his or her past experiences and perceived self-interest. The final result, while undeniably exciting, is also excruciatingly chaotic. Perhaps in the future neurotypicals will learn how to behave in more consistent and predictable ways, just as people on the spectrum will hopefully develop tools for overcoming their social impairment. Until that day arrives, though, each side will simply have to try its best to empathize with the other. After all, none of us chose to be who we are. We were all born this way. Matthew Rozsa is a PhD student in history at Lehigh University. He has been a nationally published political columnist since 2012, with work appearing in Mic, Salon, The Daily Dot, The Good Men Project, the Huffington Post, and MSNBC, among other outlets.
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